Before you agree to host a teen party involving alcohol, be clear on the laws about minors and drinking
In British Columbia, you’re allowed to serve alcohol to your own children in your own home. However, there are restrictions on serving alcohol to your children’s friends. Here are some rules and regulations you should keep in mind:
- It is illegal to serve alcohol to a person under 19.
- You could be held legally liable for any accidents or injuries that occur on your property. For this reason, it is important to understand what your home insurance covers.
- If alcohol is involved, you could be accountable for any harm your party guests experience after leaving your residence.
(In other words, you’re taking risks by hosting any kind of party that involves alcohol, even when the guests are of legal age to drink.)
You should also consider the benefits and consequences of hosting an event involving alcohol
Hosting a teen party provides you with a unique opportunity to observe and monitor your child’s behaviour when socializing. Not only are you given a chance to get to know your child on a different level, you also gain the comfort of knowing where your teen is—and what they’re doing—on a particular evening. The alternative may be that your teen heads out for the night and drinks somewhere else in a much riskier manner.
Regarding consequences, hosting a teen party involving alcohol may not be appreciated by the parents of your teen’s friends. You also run the risk of developing a reputation as a “laid-back parent” or even “a push-over.” Finally, you don’t know for certain how your teen and their friends will react to alcohol. Some may not have much tolerance for the substance, while others may be prone to overdoing it and either create a scene, pass out or make an unwelcome mess.
If you decide to host a teen party...
Make sure your child understands and agrees with the rules and parameters you establish for the party. Below are some things you might want to include in your pre-party discussions.
Limitations
Let your teen know that saying “yes” to alcohol is not the same as saying “yes” to intoxication. Explain that while teenagers may look and act like adults, they are in fact still developing physically, mentally and emotionally. Since alcohol affects teenagers differently than it does adults, party-goers between 16 and 19 years old should stick to the “one drink per hour” rule. Teens 15 and under shouldn’t drink at all.
Invitations
Using written invitations can help keep the party a manageable size and give you a chance to lay down parameters around start and end times, pick-up and drop-off options, and other details. Your invitations could also be used to give parents a heads-up about the alcohol issue. By asking that the invitations be signed by parents before a teen is allowed to join the party, you are showing your child’s friends and their parents that the party plans have been well thought out, and that the celebration will be monitored in a safe, responsible way.
Parental contact
If you’re not into the invitation idea, you might want to contact parents by phone. This way you can let parents know you plan to allow supervised drinking. You can also discuss transportation options and expectations. Use this opportunity to ask about emergency contacts in the event that a problem arises.
During the party
Provide appropriate supervision
At least one adult should be present at all times during the party. If you’ve planned a large party, make sure other parents or people of legal age are there to help you cover all the bases. You could assign each adult a different duty or station. For example, you could have one adult manning the front door to respond to party crashers. Another adult could be responsible for serving or monitoring the alcohol that is consumed.
Abstain for the night
While you may be tempted have a drink, you’re better off remaining clear-headed and alert, just in case any problems pop up unexpectedly.
Plan a safe ending
Ensure the safety of all guests by planning the end of the party before it starts. Teens who have been drinking should not be allowed to drive home. Take them home yourself, or arrange to have them picked up by their parents. If these options aren’t possible, use a taxi service and be prepared to provide cab fare. You may also want to be prepared for overnight guests in the event someone is unable to go home.
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